I am grateful for the horrendous behavior my son had at bedtime because it means he is alive and feisty, and it means I am a mom.
I am also grateful my husband handled said tantrum and said bedtime.
I am grateful for the bickering my husband and I did this morning over who would mail the mortgage payment. Our relationship is always strong enough to handle silly arguments. I am grateful I can drop it, go to work, and come home to start fresh with him, even after we have been fresh with one another.
While I am on the subject, I am grateful to have made my first mortgage payment, and grateful I will have the opportunity to make many more. It means we have a wonderful home of our own, and it means we have the finances, however meager, to afford a sturdy roof over our heads.
I am grateful for the plumbing, and heating, and painting, and lighting problems we have already experienced because it allowed for us to get creative solving problems, to see how supported we are by family. It also allowed me to see my husband shine in his new role as master of the house for the first time.
I am grateful I have learned that no one is all good, and that no one is all bad. This knowledge helps to temper my relationships with humanity.
I am grateful for the gigantic, purple bruise I have on my back from falling down the cellar stairs the other day. All that blood under my skin is a sign I am alive and my body is doing what it needs to do to heal.
I am grateful for my daughter’s presence in my life, how she came to me when I fell and brought me the tiny ice pack, offered me hugs and kisses, put her hands on my thighs and said, “I’m here with you, Mama.” This moment was such a blessing, despite the pain in my back, because it offered me a glimpse of her gentle nature, and was a tiny reflection of the nurture I have poured into her.
I am grateful for piles of dirty laundry that I will wash and fold and make sweet and clean for my family because it means we have fun, funky threads to keep our bodies warm as the weather cools, and clean water with which to do our wash in the comfort of our own home. I am grateful for my husband’s assistance in this and many other chores.
I am grateful for the traffic tonight because I got to listen to music in solitude, and to relish private memories hidden therein.
I am grateful for the company of Regina Spektor, Peter Gabriel, the Cure, Iron and Wine, George Michael, Zap Mama, Tori Amos, Alanis Morissette, Florence and the Machine, Ingrid Michaelson, Erykah Badu, Ani Difranco, Bon Iver, Dido, and so many others who have been with me in moments of joy and darkness.
I am grateful for the crowds in the grocery store because it means people are getting stuff to nourish their bodies and to spend time with their own. I am grateful for the eye contact and smile of the grocery clerk who rang up my last minute purchases with good cheer.
I am grateful for all my friends who complain about the rain, the cold, the wind, the sleet, the heat. I am happy to hear their weather woes because it means there is nothing more tragic in their lives.
I am grateful for my familial squabbles because it offers me an opportunity (if I so chose to accept) to deepen bonds and mend ways.
I am grateful for the anxiety I will feel over going to family events for holidays because I have lived with anxiety forever and it makes me realize how strong I am and how far I have come in being able to tolerate it.
I am grateful for the food I will eat, for the wine I will drink, for the multiple desserts I will savor (just because they are there and amazing!). I am grateful for how sick and lazy I will feel afterwards because it is truly a blessing to be so decadent.
I am grateful for the memories of those no longer with me, weather because they have passed beyond the veil, or because we are out of touch, or because we have fallen out of each other’s graces because the grief of a loss is always in proportion to love.
And love is everything.
I am grateful for love.
That I can feel it.
That I can make it.
That I can share it.
That I can say, thank you, I love you.
I am grateful for this, and this, and everything.
Big love and blessings to you and yours from Momaste.