Saturday SHOUT-Out: My BFF


This morning, I would like to give a huge SHOUT out to my BFF, Nikel.  She does not have a blog, but  is one of the few people in my “real” life who read my blog.  She is a huge support in my life, even though we don’t really get to hang out with one another that often anymore.

I met Nikel ten years ago, when we were working together at the same agency.  She left to go on to bigger and better things, and then had her babies and spent some years at home.  Out of all my friends who have come and gone over the past decade, she is the only one who has stood the test of time and space.

She’s back at work part time, which is pretty impressive.  Her ability to juggle stuff never fails to amaze me.  She’s the person who is always super thoughtful and does things like leaves a lasagna with fresh basil on your doorstep when you are eight months pregnant and having a nervous breakdown.

I quite frankly am amazed by her, and flattered she would choose to have me in her life.

She loves me, despite the fact that after ten years I still can’t remember her birthday (a. I don’t remember anyone’s birthdays other than my kids, it is a mental defect in me, and b.  her birthday was Friday in case you were wondering, but I wished it to her on Thursday because I suck like that).

Nikel “gets me”.  We are like Meredith and Christina on Grey’s Anatomy.  She is Meredith of course because she’s skinny and looks great in jeans, and I’m Christina because, you know, the butt face and irritability.  She’s my person.

One time I got the random urge to make up a song and sing it to her when we were working together.  I marched up to her desk, my arms pumping back and forth and sang, “Nikel, she is a friend of mine!  Nikel, she is so nice and fine!  Nikel, she makes me giggle.  She has brown hair and a really nice smile!”  She laughed and we got a coffee.  How many people would just accept such silliness and not have me committed, I’ve wondered throughout the years.

Here are a few other things that make her great:

  • When I had postpartum depression after my first baby, Nikel (who’s first baby was just a few months older), got me to come to a baby yoga class that totally helped me bond with Jack and feel less isolated as a new mom.
  • Nikel can totally tell when I am texting her in my Napoleon Dynamite voice.
  • She also replies compassionately to my ragey PMS texts without thinking I’m a total freak.  Or maybe she does but she doesn’t make me feel that way.

She’s been there for me with understanding and quiet perseverance through dating woes, wedding planning, fights with my spouse, miscarriage, pregnancy, and all the little highs and lows of parenting.  Even though we haven’t known each other since we were tiny kids, I still feel like we have gone through almost as much life together.

Big love to Nikel!!  And happy belated birffday.

Who is your BFF?  What makes them so special to you?  

Saturday SHOUT Out is my way of acknowledging other bloggers and friends who touch my life and make the world a better place. If you would like to be featured in a Saturday SHOUT Out, please let me know in the comments below. It is also encouraged (and good etiquette) that you check out the others featured, and be familiar with the format and vibe of Momaste. Thanks!

11 responses »

  1. Awww man. I want to exercise good etiquette and check out Nikel, but…I can’t. 😦

    Tell her I said hi, though.

    “Some guy…in Canada….says hi.”

    Just like that.

    With the pauses.

    Totally deadpan.


      • Woot! 😀

        I’m a little miffed that your best friend of a decade got the “Saturday Shout-Out” *I* had been promised, but…whatevs. 😉

        I was actually planning a huge Monday post around it and a couple of other things in tandem, but there’s always next Saturday! 😀

      • James, dear, don’t be miffed. You’ll have your moment in the momaste sun, no worries. I even know exactly which post I am going to highlight. . . because it is one that continues to make me laugh uproariously every time I think of it. I’m also stretching things out a bit so that you don’t just desert me as soon as you get your shout out or something unkind like that, and break my tender heart. Now, I have to go to the apple store to get my phone fixed and am a little worried that I might go insane and get committed while I am there, so as long as I am still out and about in the world after this adventure, you will get your shout out next week. Insert winky emoticon here. xox.

      • Heh heh. I’m not really “miffed.”

        You can tell becaues I don’t think I’d ever use that word in REAL life. 🙂

        No, Nike (I’m going to call her Nike, by the way) deserves the accolade before me.

        As to deserting you? HA! Impossible. You are among the top three most encouraging, sweet, and FUNNY voices I’ve encountered on here, and it’s an enormous help to know that when I post something, a blogger of your caliber will read it.

        That kind of stuff doesn’t get deserted, you know? 🙂

      • Hey Nike!

        I’d love to have you stop by!

        I’m actually working on this evening’s post as we speak, and if you’ll pardon my French, le travail c’est un ‘tit peu dificille, mais, je voulaiz finir quelque chose chauque jour!


        – James, de La Livre Offensive

  2. I totally love you both after reading that!! I don’t have a BFF other than my husband.. I have often wished I did but it’s not meant to be 🙂
    I completely felt for you with the homework related blog- I am an avid believer of NO homework until high school (reading lots in numerous forms each day is an important part of life so I don’t consider that as ‘homework’ but an essential part of life- and anything that wasn’t finished during the day because of ‘messing around’ is understandable to a point).. I have had great results from bring in close contact with the teacher/s of early education and in fact just wrote an explanatory note to our kinder teacher regarding why ‘homework’ may not be completed despite regular gentle positive prompts… It is not worth the stress on the family and we have numerous extra-curricular activities and family/play time. The hours our kids attend schooling should be sufficient for curriculum, the rest is OURS!! Ours I say!! Mwahaha 😀

  3. Beautiful tribute to your best friend! Like you, I have my “person” – my best friend of (almost) 16 years. I couldn’t imagine life without her, and wouldn’t want to. She knows me inside and out, sees the silly, weird side of me no one else does, and still loves me for me!

    Everyone needs a best friend like this. 🙂

  4. I am honored that you would say such beautiful things about me, Charlotte. You are an amazing, beautiful and strong person and I wouldn’t make it in this world without our friendship. You had me laughing and crying simultaneously. xoxo

    As for the ‘Canada Guy’ I only can dream about having my own blog, but am not a good writer like my pal, Charlotte. I will, however check out your blog! Peace

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